Husband doesnt find me as attractive

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Last post: 10/02/2024 at 9:32 pm

CHARLOTTE M(158)
Charlotte M(158)
19/01/2024 at 10:25 am

I found out at the weekend that my husband hasn't found me as attractive for over 2 years. He said due to me putting weight on, my mental health and more recently my physical health problems. Apart from once we haven't had sex in over 2 years. He always said

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CHARLOTTE M(158)
Charlotte M(158)
19/01/2024 at 10:28 am

It posted before I finished typing. He always said that it was him that just didn't want sex, that he found me attractive and I wasn't the problem. We stopped cuddling in bed and on the sofa. Also I don't feel he was as there emotionally for me. I feel broken and like he has lied to me.

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Anonymous
21/01/2024 at 12:51 am
In answer to
Charlotte M(158)

It posted before I finished typing. He always said that it was him that just didn't want sex, that he found me attractive and I wasn't the problem. We stopped cuddling in bed and on the sofa. Also I don't feel he was as there emotionally for me. I feel broken and like he has lied to me.

Leave he's lost his attraction to you no point being together

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CARLY D(323)
Carly D(323)
22/01/2024 at 6:19 pm

Oh Charlotte, I could not read and run. This must have hurt you, did he give you any indication that he still wants to be with you and work at things? Attraction is important in a relationship but it’s not the only thing. How do you feel? Do you want to work at things? Just please know that youre beautiful, whatever he says x

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LUCY J(37)
Lucy J(37)
22/01/2024 at 7:05 pm
In answer to
Charlotte M(158)

It posted before I finished typing. He always said that it was him that just didn't want sex, that he found me attractive and I wasn't the problem. We stopped cuddling in bed and on the sofa. Also I don't feel he was as there emotionally for me. I feel broken and like he has lied to me.

I think a valid question is do you feel attractive? We tend to project how we feel about ourselves. From my experience (and may definitely not be yours) if I'm feeling like I've put weight on, not bothered to do my hair, feel stressed out I don't feel attractive. I don't want to make an effort or even change out of sweats and most definately it aint sexy. When I'm feeling good about myself my demeanour is more attractive. Its very often not such a physical attraction thing.

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VICTORIA ELLEN R
Victoria ellen R
22/01/2024 at 8:59 pm
In answer to
Anonymous

Leave he's lost his attraction to you no point being together

Why do you have to be so blunt and nasty all the time ? There is other ways to break things to people did no one ever tell you if you can’t say anything nice then don’t say anything? Every post yeah say it how it is but you don’t have to be so sharp sugarcoat it a bit at least ?

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HERETOBROWSE
Heretobrowse
22/01/2024 at 10:39 pm
In answer to
Anonymous

Leave he's lost his attraction to you no point being together

What a weird place to troll.

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ANONYMOUS
Anonymous
23/01/2024 at 12:00 am
In answer to
Victoria ellen R

Why do you have to be so blunt and nasty all the time ? There is other ways to break things to people did no one ever tell you if you can’t say anything nice then don’t say anything? Every post yeah say it how it is but you don’t have to be so sharp sugarcoat it a bit at least ?

It's not he said he lost his attraction he said it so she's best of leaving as no point she deserves better then to be told this someome should love her regardless.

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ANONYMOUS
Anonymous
23/01/2024 at 12:01 am
In answer to
Heretobrowse

What a weird place to troll.

It's not trolling he said it to her? And I said to leave ? She deserves better then him who's that low to say that to her .

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Anonymous
23/01/2024 at 12:31 am

Your beautiful regardless its sad he feels this way u deserve better. We all lose ourself sometimes and find ourselves again but the fact he pushed unaway isn't nice. I'd probably end things as no point he will soon regret it. Take care of urself do things u love with ppl that love u

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SHELLEY S(235)
Shelley S(235)
23/01/2024 at 12:29 pm

Oh Charlotte how awful for you! This must place further strain on your mental health. So, I feel similar. I developed arthritis in my

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SHELLEY S(235)
Shelley S(235)
23/01/2024 at 12:29 pm

Sorry Charlotte it posted before I finished. How annoying

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SHELLEY S(235)
Shelley S(235)
23/01/2024 at 12:40 pm

It keeps posting too soon. What a pain haha! So, I developed arthritis in my hips and it affected abduction in my legs and sex became impossible. I then put weight on etc. I've had 1 hip replaced and I'm having the other 1 done this week. Charlotte the key is to fix yourself. Work on yourself. Push the attraction worry with your husband to one side and work on you. You must love yourself. Confidence is so attractive. Me personally, I'm fixing the issue. I'm now on a calorie deficit and getting my weight off. I'm going to start working out too and strengthen myself. If you work on you, the rest will fall into place and you'll see a big difference in your husband. Longterm relationships are hardwork. Of course feelings change and you have to work to fix the things that start to cause problems. It's kind of good your husband has been honest with you, as you can work on these things. Sit down with him and tell him that what he's told you has upset you but you're willing to work to change things. Ask him where he sees this marriage going. Talk about the future with him. Ultimately you need to work on you. Nurture yourself and love yourself. You deserve to be happy and things will fall into place.

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MAHWISH L
Mahwish L
10/02/2024 at 9:32 pm

Looks like he is interested in someone

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