Friend is seeing my husband! - Page: 3

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Last post: 23/02/2024 at 8:12 am

VIOLET W(4)
Violet W(4)
27/01/2024 at 2:44 pm
In answer to
Violet W(4)

So sorry to hear they've treated you badly and make fun of you. Laughing at you when you're upset is nasty. Calling you names like "desperate Dan" is just horrible of them. I pressed the heart button on your OP question as I felt it was a way to give you a hug. I know it might be hard, but you're better rid of him, he's just awful. Try and be strong for your kids, and see a way forward and rebuild your life. You're much better than he is.

Sorry my post should've been aimed at the OP.

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JESSICA W(690)
Jessica W(690)
29/01/2024 at 7:49 pm

Thank you for sharing your story and I really empathise with you. But as King Solomon said, this too shall pass. Everything will be okay in the end.

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BROOKE S(51)
Brooke S(51)
30/01/2024 at 9:21 pm

Hello i am feeling your pain it must be incredibly hard to be going through this. I want you to know that you aren't alone. Many people get in your situation. You seem like such a lovely person and um sure that your ex husband just didn't see that. Im sure you will find another one.

Thank you ever so much for sharing your situation.


Goodbye x

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DEBORAH W(421)
Deborah W(421)
31/01/2024 at 1:40 pm

You poor thing, your reactions are totally understood.

A similar thing happened to me, but my partner back then denied it, and yes, the truth came out in the end.

It was double betrayal ..as she was supposedly a friend too.

All I can say to you, regarding the children is ask them if they want to go to Dad's?

Time is a great healer and that is basically all you can do, but I promise you that 1 day you will look back down that road and be greatful you didn't spend your life with these animals.

The grass isn't always greener on the other side.

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DEMI A(3)
Demi A(3)
06/02/2024 at 12:12 pm

I think he is lucky to of ever had u in his life ...and to go jump on your friend is soo wrong even if I ain't together that would be like u getting with his best friend 😳 keep your head up your better than them

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EMMA R(59)
Emma R(59)
07/02/2024 at 1:14 pm

They were definitely cheating behind your back! You have to be the better person now though and just concentrate on yourself and your children. Let them have each other. Go get your hair done self care. Dont contact either of them. Go dating. Lifes short dont waste it on what isnt yours who doesn't want you or ***** friends sorry for being blunt but sometimes people need to hear it. One day you wont care about them they dont seem to care about you. Good luck and I wish you the best in life x

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VICKY D(313)
Vicky D(313)
10/02/2024 at 10:47 pm

It's reasonable that you have all those feelings and you should accept and acknowledge them. This is you and this is how you feel.. Nobody likes to be betrayed and many won't understand what you are going through.

However, don't just stay there overthinking about them and what has happened... They are obviously not such good people if they talk like that about you..and they definitely handled this very badly.

Just distance yourself from them and try feeling good inside, maybe start working out if you are not already...it will boost your confidence so much!!!

Not all relationships are meant to last. We wish they would but sometimes is the only way for the good of both parties.

I can understand that is frustrating for you because you knew the other woman and that this was most probably happening before you separated. But wait a minute..

Can you change that? I mean do you even want him back? They seem to be doing just fine without you, why should you spend your days consuming your mind thinking about them and what happened?!

For the fact that you don't like the kids going to her house... Unfortunately there is nothing you can do about that either. He is their father and on his days, he chooses to take them there.

Take your time to mourn and be frustrated, but not for too long so you don't lose yourself!

Be well inside and the right person will find you.. you don't deserve that prick!

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HAYLEY M(56)
Hayley M(56)
14/02/2024 at 2:44 am

Hi Karlie, my names Hayley....Oh my word what a nasty piece of work they both are! No you are not wrong for not wanting your children to go to her house.....imagine what they are thinking!! I'm so sorry your going through this! Trust me, this won't last .... Theh never do. What u can do to fast up that pace is ***** them out, don't react. Hand the kids over and shut the door. Only message when u need to, anything emotional that he messages u just ignore and be straight to the point for example if he message "are u going to stop being jealous ECT ECT" just ignore he's message but then reply when u need to saying "are u picking kids up at 3" this will work trust me. Get yourself out, do things that make u happy. Get your hair done, your better off without both of them.....evil they are doing this to u xxxx

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DANIELLE L(436)
Danielle L(436)
23/02/2024 at 8:04 am
In answer to
Nicholas G(12)

Do we really need this kind of content here????


This is a safe space to share anything!


People struggle on a day to day basis some people have no one to talk to

With mental health crisis at a all time high I'd say its ok to share this here.


If you didn't like it, you didn't need to read it or to go as far as to comment

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DANIELLE L(436)
Danielle L(436)
23/02/2024 at 8:12 am

You have every right to feel all the emotions you are feeling

And you no doubt want answers whether they had an affair

It must feel so unfair right now


A friend and a husband must be top 5 worst affairs and no one can say they'd just move on over night from that


But my advice would be dont not let negative feelings consume you,

Try to accept perhaps they did and its not your fault, maybe try some counselling (let's talk are good for over the phone counselling)

Try and confind in a family member you can trust, spend time with people you love.


Don't ***** them off to the children, if anything big them up to the kids

And cry in quiet when they've gone, don't let your ex or your ex friend get even a sniff that you're hurt because it sounds like they're feeding of it.


Have some pamerping, some self love, get in the hair dressers, go for a massage, join a group, go out and do something you enjoy, do everything you can for you!! This is how you'll heal.


And when he's realised what he's lost you'll be there glowing and radiant and a new person happy with who you've become and he'll be a sad mess because what goes around comes around no matter how long it takes


Good luck lovely

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