Social worker with no evidence

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Last post: 14/01/2024 at 2:37 pm

Rebecca S(2019)
05/01/2024 at 7:50 pm

I have a social worker that is saying my child is at risk and will not tell me why and what for I have asked for evidence and not giving me anything she does not write stuff down or anything I have a child with hydrocephalus and she thinks he is at risk cause of his needs we have done what's she has asked but then mentioned a child protection plan my child never misses an appointment or anything she goes on that my partner is the risk when he has never been a risk to my child once and saying strategy meeting will be going on with checking criminal records nothing on both of us as we have never been arrested or anything she still goes that's not enough we have throwing loads out to try and please her and she goes I see u Friday well she did not come out and see us so wondering what the right decision would be going forward we have all his hospital letter all his meds are prescribed up to date and food in cupboards and fridge freezer plus she goes well I still think your child's at risk. no he ain't at risk in our eyes at all he is well looked after nad a happy child and we fought for his brain surgery too as hospital said they did not want to operate yet at 8 month to 9 month old now he is 1 year old with a vp shunt in his brain going down to his stomach

Health Visitor Tracey
06/01/2024 at 2:06 pm

Hello Rebecca

I am sorry to hear you feel confused about what your social worker is doing, and also that you disagree with their opinion.

You Social worker has mentioned she would like there to be a strategy meeting, which is what would normally happen if there were concerns that a child was being exposed to some form of risk.

A strategy discussion has to be arranged if there is reasonable cause to suspect that a child has suffered or is likely to suffer a level of harm. The purpose of having one of these meeting is to consider if a child needs protecting, and if so, to develop a plan of action for this to take happen. Normally Police, health professionals, teachers and other relevant professionals are invited to attend these meetings and support the local authority in undertaking its enquiries. Parents do not normally attend these meetings, which is perhaps another reason why you aren't sure what is going on. If it has already taken place, I would hope that you will hear very soon about what is going to happen, if anything at all is.

If you do not agree with what your Social Worker thinks, you will have an opportunity to share this with others. Your voice in this, and your child's voice are very very important, and you will have your time to say what you want. You will be able to say why you don't agree, and people will listen.

Do you have the telephone number for your Social worker, or perhaps their email? Can you get in contact with them and ask for an update? If you don't you could ring her main office and ask to speak with the duty Social Worker who may be able to offer you some information. You could try this weekend, but you'll get more response if you ring on Monday when most people are back in work.

I do hope this helps in some way. Please do come back to us again to chat more if that would help.

Best wishes

Tracey HV

Deborah S(542)
14/01/2024 at 12:16 pm

How long have you and your partner been together? Is he the biological father your child? Is there any possibility there could be something in his past he hasn't told you about? Maybe do Claire's or Sarah's law and see if there is anything, social workers can't just say someone is a risk for no reason.

Kayleigh R(178)
14/01/2024 at 12:39 pm

Obviously we don’t know you, but how long have you been with your partner? And how well do you know him? Can you guarantee that nothing has happened in his past years ago? Has he ever been in a fight with police called? Has he ever been cautioned for anything? Has he given you any reason to doubt him?

If you have been with him a long time and your childhood sweethearts, then of course you know him and his past, but if you’re talking about months, or maybe 1 or 2 years, then you do not fully know him. I’ve been with my partner coming up 5 years this year, and we are still finding new things out about each other, good things of course, and we have a child together.

Im reading posts on here, which are heartbreaking with their partners, wife’s and husbands leaving after 10, 20 years who would never think they would be left in their own bringing up children.

Like I said, I don’t know your situation, but this is what social services will be looking at.

Good luck, and hopefully all will work itself out.

Geraldine O(40)
14/01/2024 at 12:54 pm

Rebecca I’m a children’s sw. Please escalate this to her mgr, if you get no joy escalate up again and make a formal complaint if you feel u r correct xx

Elaine M(681)
14/01/2024 at 1:17 pm
In answer to
Deborah S(542)

How long have you and your partner been together? Is he the biological father your child? Is there any possibility there could be something in his past he hasn't told you about? Maybe do Claire's or Sarah's law and see if there is anything, social workers can't just say someone is a risk for no reason.

I agree she should use Claire’s and Sarah’s law to check incase there is something in his past. We don’t know how long they have been together etc. x



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CARLY P(182)
Carly P(182)
14/01/2024 at 1:28 pm

I also agree on checking his past via Clare’s law etc. You just never know.

I learnt the hard way. Don’t do the same.

Although he may have nothing there, would put your mind at rest and if he has nothing to hide should hopefully understand why you need to do so.


KATE J(44)
Kate J(44)
14/01/2024 at 2:37 pm

Take no chances - get him checked out . Your child comes first


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