I’m I over reacting just need advice please

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Last post: 21/01/2024 at 10:04 pm

Lauren M(32)
15/01/2024 at 1:04 pm

hi im new here and was wondering if I could get some advice on something that bothers me

i suffer at the moment with ocd not the cleaning ocd the ( obsessive thinking ) we I overthink everything most of the time but In a therapy group and it has helped but slowly so I don’t know if this is my ocd or what I’m thinking is right

my two children went over to there nans the other day my husbands mum house me and my mother in law didn’t get to a great start as she was over bearing when I had my two youngest my oldest isn’t her biological grandchild but they all go over together.

the day we went to my mother in laws that night I was dropping my eldest to my mums for the night

my mother in law asked her if she was staying at hers that night my mother in law didn’t no she was going over to my mums that night when I’m daughter replied I’m going over my nans she goes oh okay I was gunna say if I had you we could of baked the next day my daughter replied another time and she said in the following week . What I’m trying to say is do you think my mother in law meant it in a way to get them to stay because she didn’t want them going over my mums or do u think this could be my ocd I no it sounds like nothing but battling my ocd at the same time make s me think of all these situations sorry for long post just want some advice

Parent Supporter Catherine
15/01/2024 at 8:51 pm

Hi Lauren

I'm Catherine, one of the Parent Supporters at Netmum. Sorry to hear how tough things at the moment - sending you a gentle hug this evening. Lauren, you've noticed that you are overthinking but aren't sure if this is part of your OCD. It's positive to hear that the therapy group has been helpful - would that be an appropriate place to chat about this? Or do you have support from any other professionals who you could ask about this? I'm going to link the MIND website too which has some self care ideas suggestions for OCD: Self-care for OCD - Mind

I've asked for your post to be moved over to our drop in clinic where I think you'll get more support and hopefully some of our lovely community will be along soon


15/01/2024 at 8:59 pm

Hi Lauren,

We've moved your thread into our drop-in clinic, maternal mental health so you can get the advice and support you need

Little B(15)
19/01/2024 at 11:41 pm

Hi Lauren!

Sorry to hear about your struggles with OCD and glad the group is helping.

Asking for other people's take on the issues that are causing you concern is a smart move as another perspective, if it feels right, can really help to quell anxieties that might otherwise become a bit overwhelming

IMO, I think it's very likely that MIL mentioned the possibility of baking with the intention of making an overnight stay with her as attractive to your daughters as possible.

I don't think from what you've said that there's anything to suggest that she doesn't want your children to visit their other grandparent, though; just that she wants to ensure that she plans in enough pleasurable activities so that they don't stop visiting her too.

I don't think there's anything you need to worry about here. Just MIL making an effort to entertain her granddaughters. On the contrary, I think that's something to be thankful for and I'm sure that a lot of mums would envy the willing involvement of two grandparents. It's great for your girls and maybe nice for you to have some time to yourself too. Make the most of it!

Kayleigh R(178)
21/01/2024 at 10:04 pm

You are overthinking this, it does sound like MIL was hoping to have them, and perhaps all do something nice together. Is she in her own? Or maybe she just likes a bit of company, as they say children make you feel younger.

You could say, in a nice way to MIL, oh that’s a lovely idea, and pencil in a date for the next one, and that you look forward to trying their cakes.

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